Thursday, May 7, 2009

Lost: Love… is complicated


It seems like such an understatement, even as Richard says it and Jack and Kate exchange a glance of shared pain and understanding. Love… is complicated. Eloise Hawking has just come into the knowledge that her unborn son has travelled to the past, multiple times, from the future, and this most recent time ended with her tragically putting a bullet in his back – killing him.

She must now help Jack, against the wishes of Daniel's father – Charles Widmore – fulfill her son's wishes to attempt to take the Jughead A-bomb, which Daniel had previously told her to 'bury', to the site of the future Swan station in order to destroy the natural magnetic field stored underneath that ends up being the force that brings down Flight 815 in 2004. In essence, Daniel wishes to erase the past in order to POSSIBLY change the future.

To POSSIBLY have a better one.

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Jack and Kate know all too well the consequences of trying to change the future; they've just debated the merits of their relationship within the context of the history of this show inside of Eloise's tent with Jack siding with the recently deceased Daniel in hoping to erase the deaths – the misery - that they've experienced since the crash.

Kate, on the other hand, isn't quite sure. She's not sure that it will work at all, that it will, instead, result in the death of them all. She's also not sure that if it DOES work that it will bring about the 'tabula rasa' Jack is expecting, in the way that he's expecting it. In fact, she doesn't WANT to erase the past at all because to her, "it wasn't all misery."

Of course, Jack's pained, "Enough of it was," is a dagger through not only her heart, but the hearts of those out there who have followed this pairing since day one of the show. Not because they believe it's the end of a relationship, but because it exemplifies the biggest problem with their relationship.

The courtship of Jack and Kate has been steeped in miscommunication. Stemming from trust and self-esteem issues, they've both taken to playing their cards close to their hearts, allowing only glimpses into what lays inside, because they both fear the rejection they've experienced their whole lives from the people they've loved most.

I've often compared them to a pendulum, swinging from one extreme to another, but never quite stabilizing in the middle – never finding the balance in their lives and with one another that would give them both the fulfilling relationship they've both been longing for. Because love IS complicated, because they're both so afraid that if they talked about how they felt, the other would abandon them – or worse, remain unrequited in their feelings.

In Eloise's tent, where Jack is expressing a deep seeded need to 'fix' everything because he looks back upon his deeds as disappointments, the outcome of which was generally pain and death and he clings to the hope that it can all be re-done in a more 'right' way; Kate is more willing to accept that things are the way they are for a reason and that maybe the miseries one accumulates throughout their lifetime are necessary evils to help them grow.

She's been there, has faced those demons, and has embraced them to learn from them, becoming someone willing to stop running and face the consequences of their actions, someone who understands that not everyone is perfect and, most importantly, someone who understands she IS good enough to be loved.

Kate understands destiny and accepts it; Jack wants to make his own.

It's not surprising, given his life. Like Daniel, Jack was being shepherded into a profession he might not have been interested in as a child, but a profession chosen for him to fulfill a legacy. Daniel's mother, having also accepted (through trial and error, as displayed in 'The Constant') destiny, accepts that her child is a sacrifice the island demands to ensure time remains intact. Jack's father's intentions are unknown, but the outcome is that Jack has had to suffer this life to become the man who hopes to change it.
Like Daniel, Jack believes that if you make a big enough splash in the stream of time, the ripple effects will resonate enough down the line to alter the course of history. But, as can sometimes happen, he's so blinded by his faith in this idea that he's not thinking clearly about the consequences. What got Daniel shot in the back was the conviction of his beliefs and the inability to lower his gun, raise his hands, and say, "Let's discuss this."

For the couple in question, Daniel's shot in the back is Jack's loss of Kate who, ironically, went to get Sawyer and Juliet to stop Jack not quite understanding that if she truly wants to stop Jack, the only person he needs to listen to is her. Either she has to convince him that blowing up the hatch with a hydrogen bomb will lead to all of their deaths or he has to convince her that if it works they will not lose Them. They have to stop their pendulum from swinging so they can be still in some middle ground and talk. And listen. And through this communication one will succumb to the other.

Because love… is faith.

2 Responses to “Lost: Love… is complicated”

Francesca said...

ah! dude I wrote about the pendolum too today on the fuse! LOL
great analysis!

Kate said...

*cuddles post*